DEAR DEIDRE: UNINTENTIONALLY I’ve damage a really pricey buddy and now she received’t converse to me. I can’t sleep and the guilt is killing me.
I’m a 52-year-old girl. My buddy is 49. I posted feedback anonymously on an internet site about the way in which her daughter was being badly handled by her mates.
I felt actually sorry for my buddy and though I didn’t point out her or her daughter by title, she is furious about my on-line posts. I’ve requested for them to be taken down but it surely might take weeks.
At first she stated she wouldn’t converse to me till they’re taken down, however now she says it doesn’t matter whether or not the feedback are eliminated or not – she desires nothing extra to do with me.
I’ve apologised quite a few occasions for my stupidity and lack of sensitivity.
I really feel extremely ashamed of my behaviour, hurting somebody I care a lot about. Are you able to assist me?
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DEIDRE SAYS: When friendships change or finish abruptly, it may possibly fire up a spread of feelings.
She sounds resentful and sad however you’ve got repeatedly apologised and executed your utmost to make issues proper. You’ll be able to’t do any extra.
Even the very best of associates might not keep that method for ever. And that may damage.
Give attention to the nice friendships you do have.
Take into consideration speaking to a counsellor in case you’re struggling to manage. Entry one by way of the British Affiliation for Counselling and Psychotherapy (bacp.co.uk, 01455 883 300).