DEAR ABBY: Pal hasn’t delivered promised craft undertaking

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DEAR ABBY: I’m having a difficulty with my longtime finest buddy. We now not reside in the identical state, however we speak a number of instances every week and attempt to go to yearly. We each love crafting, and two years in the past, I began making her a giant, stunning counted cross-stitch and had it customized framed. The undertaking took a number of months, and he or she knew I used to be making it.

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She supplied — I didn’t ask — to make me a quilt from T-shirts I had collected through the years from numerous locations I had been. So I lower the logos/graphics off the shirts and mailed them to her. She informed me it could take her solely every week to make the quilt. That was two years in the past. It has been a yr since I drove six hours every solution to ship my cross-stitch reward to her, and he or she nonetheless hasn’t made the quilt.

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I’ve since moved even farther away. I miss residence, and I really need the quilt. I’ve requested her about it a number of instances. The quilt would imply a lot to me, particularly now that I’m greater than 1,000 miles away, however she retains making empty guarantees about ending it. In the meantime, she has discovered the time to create crochet and cross-stitch gadgets for her prolonged household and transform her kitchen.

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I’m so harm about the entire thing that I’d prefer to ask her to return the T-shirt items to me. No less than that manner I may rent somebody to make me the quilt. Am I being unreasonable? — WAITING IN THE SOUTH

DEAR WAITING: What you might be contemplating just isn’t solely cheap, but additionally rational. The subsequent time you and your buddy chat, inform her you perceive what a busy individual she is. Clarify that you prefer to her to search out the time to return the material you despatched so you can also make different preparations to have the quilt made. Smile once you say it so your tone might be “heat and pleasant.” That manner, the friendship can proceed if you want.

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DEAR ABBY: At first of the yr, I broke up with my boyfriend. I went to a clinic to get examined for STDs, and every thing turned out wonderful. A number of months later, I began relationship one other man I’d met final yr. Every part was nice till I spotted he’s HIV-positive. After I requested him, he denied it.

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After I returned to the clinic to get examined once more, I used to be informed I’m now HIV-positive. We had been utilizing safety, however stopped. I haven’t informed my household but, however he is aware of. How can I give my household this information? — LOVED BUT CONFUSED

DEAR LOVED: Earlier than you make any bulletins to your loved ones, schedule an appointment along with your doctor to debate this analysis. It is advisable to be placed on antiviral treatment as quickly as attainable. If you’re nonetheless with this loser, he needs to be placed on treatment as properly. Not solely does his life depend upon it, however he may infect many extra companions.

After you have begun the therapy your physician prescribes, inform your loved ones. Don’t be shocked if they need you to place the one who failed to say he’s HIV-positive after which contaminated you within the rear-view mirror.

— Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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