DEAR DEIDRE: I’M taking part in second finest in a love triangle – and I’ve now fallen hopelessly for the lady within the center.
Drawback is, she is already in a relationship and admits she has robust emotions for the opposite man, however likes me too.
She is open concerning the truth he’s her No1 and I’m No2.
The one approach she says that will ever change is that if he goes again on his plan to maneuver in along with her in a month’s time.
I’m 19 years outdated, she’s 21 and this different bloke is 22.
I met this lady on-line, after we started messaging on Instagram. As time glided by our messages grew to become a bit extra flirty.
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I attempted to cease flirting along with her however it’s now six months later and I nonetheless have robust emotions. Our relationship has moved on. We message and video name one another often and our calls do typically develop into sexual.
In the intervening time her plan to maneuver in with the opposite man appear to be nonetheless on observe however I discover myself obsessively checking his Instagram for any indicators that there could also be some cracks of their relationship.
How do I proceed? I genuinely like her and he or she informed me she needed to remain in touch, as she has emotions for me and cares for me.
DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry, however this lady is already relationship another person – and he or she isn’t being truthful to both of you.
I perceive you want her however the info are that she isn’t free to be with you and also you shouldn’t put your life on maintain for her – actually not on the off likelihood her relationship with the opposite man might falter.
She’s even said her emotions are stronger for him than you and that she would solely take into account being with you if issues with him fell by way of.
She sees you as her back-up plan. Please, don’t accept that.
That you’re completely happy to be somebody’s second alternative suggests you will have low shallowness and don’t really feel worthy of higher dedication.
Please begin to work on that and give attention to assembly new individuals and making new buddies.
You deserve somebody who is obtainable and desires a correct relationship with you.
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